Here I am. I haven’t fallen off the face of the earth. I’ve been just a touch busy though. When Carter was a month old I thought about how I should write a blog post like I did for his sister when she turned one month old and again how I did it when Brady turned a month old. But then time got away from me and by the time he was two months old the same thoughts came into my mind. So here today he is 4 months old and I am finally sitting down because I WILL write about these first 4 months.
Weight: 9.5 lbs
* Still rocking his newborn clothes
* Sleeping anywhere from 4-6 hour stretches towards 4 weeks old
He’s such a good baby in all honestly. He sleeps well, he nurses well, he
cries screams when he is cold and in the bathtub, and hates getting his diaper changed (because he gets cold) but loves when he’s so fresh and so clean. Seriously, being cold is like his worst enemy. I even had a heater cranked in the bathroom during bath time but it did not matter, he was a scream machine.
During the day he napped like a dream. 2.5-3 hours at a time. He would sleep on me, on Brian, strapped in the rock n play and while the kids were running around the house. We were not trying to be especially quiet like we did with the first two. When you have a third with two other younger kids, that’s basically impossible. I was lazy with naps this time around. I didn’t put him in his crib as much, I just held him. He IS my last so I was soaking up those baby snuggles he is so good at.
He started his first night home in his crib for night sleep and hated it. He did 1-2 hour increments that night and I remember thinking “oh my God, I’m going to have to hold him to sleep forever.” That’s when BK stepped in, talked me off the ledge, and reminded me, “Stacy, he’s 5 days old and has no idea what a crib is. Let him adjust.” The next night was better and our little swaddled burrito extended his sleeping to 2.5-3 hour chunks. We continued putting him in his crib, in his room, so he eventually would realize, this is where I sleep! At one month old he was sleeping anywhere from 5-7 hour increments, going to bed around 8:00p or so. After that initial long stretch of sleep though he would wake up anywhere from 1.5-3 hours each time after until he was up for the day. And towards the early morning hour of around 5:30a, he did not want to go back into his crib so either I held him or Brian came in and took over and held him until around 7:00/7:30 or so.
He picked up nursing right away, as soon as he was born. Thankfully all of my kids have been great nursers which is definitely one less stress for me. At 10 days old, we took him to Children’s Hospital Anschutz, for a moderate tongue tie that needed to be clipped. I had a suspicion from a bit of clicking that he did when he nursed and it just looked tight when he would cry and open his mouth. It took less than 10 seconds and he immediately nursed when the procedure was done. I did go dairy free again with Carter because it was a problem with the first two kiddos, so I figured it would be for him too. So far, Brady had the least amount of issues with dairy as I was able to reintroduce it all when he was 4 months old. I don’t see myself doing that for Carter just yet but for sure around 6 months. I miss my chai tea something fierce though….
He also started meds for his reflux and went to the chiro 2x per week for an adjustment when he was 3 weeks old. He loved being adjusted and his chiro loved adjusting him because she got a lot of snuggles from him.
Daddy took his first work trip leaving me with the 3 kiddos for a few days. And although I was scared out of my mind on how I was going to do it all on my own, we survived! I’ve sort of come to realize that it is what it is. If the night is a shit show then let’s hope for the best the next day. I don’t have a lot of control over what may happen and that is hard for me but…. I need to learn to let go and just go with the flow a little more.
Month 1 was an adjustment, mostly for me. The kids were great with their new brother although the mommy guilt of feeling like I couldn’t be as present as I was just a few months prior was tough. I felt like I was always saying, “I can’t, Mommy has to feed Carter…” and I could see the sadness in their eyes. Those first few weeks and months are hard. So hard. Hormones are out of control, your body is recovering from giving birth, and if your breastfeeding, like I am, dealing with things like engorgement, sore nipples, fast letdown, fitting in some pumping to save milk, and being dairy free, the list goes on. One of the biggest adjustments for me was going back to the baby stage. Brady and Makenzie are very independent kids where they will go play together in the basement or upstairs in their playroom and Brian and I were just starting to get some time back. I could make dinner without a crying toddler at my feet telling me how he needed to eat now, now, now. I could get up and go to the gym when I wanted and not feel guilty about leaving Brian with two kiddos. Everything with two seemed so manageable and even easy! Three is a whole new ballgame but we wouldn’t change it!
Weight: 11 lbs 3 oz (19%)
Height: 22+ inches (22%)
Head: 40 cm (73%)
We have our first social smile from Carter! This happened around the 5 week mark! So fun to see them do that. They begin to feel like actual human beings at this point!CK also found his hands around this time and started to try to put them in his mouth and suck on his fist. He still likes his sleep and so far is the easiest baby of the three to put down at night. Makenzie was fairly easy but we would have to swaddled her up and walk with her for a good 10-15 minutes before we laid her down. With Brady, if he was overtired (which happened a lot) he was super sensitive to his wake times and often would take 1-2 hours to get down for the night. Carter nurses before bed and we lay him in his crib and he is out. There have only been a handful of times that we have to go back into his room and when we did it was because he still had a burp or wanted just a few more cuddles for the night.
* Drinking all of the milk
* Cuddling/being swaddled (this will calm him right down if he is screaming his little face off)
* Being Warm
* Being Held
* Being cold
* Being hungry
* When he manages to pee on his own face
* Diaper changes
* When mom tries to eat dairy
Brian started taking some longer work trips and my dad came to my rescue and flew out for a week to help me out which was amazing. CK started daycare on April 8th and I went back to work. I work from home and have a good set up but there is just no possible way to be working AND having a new baby during the day.
We have hit cat napping territory in our house. I remember little BK did the same thing around this age and it drove me a little crazy. We are looking at four to five 30 minute naps throughout the day unless he’s being held. So obviously when 5:30/6p rolls around we have a very tired baby that is just done and wants to go to bed. So I start his nighttime routine which always includes bath, lotion, jammies, nurse, and then bed. I also decided to take him out of his swaddle at this point because although he was still sleeping good, he got so angry when he was in it. He would move his head back and forth (so much so that he rubbed all the hair off in the back) and seem very restless. So one Sunday night I whipped out the Merlin Sleep Suit and stuck him in it. He looked like a little marshmallow but so cute and he went right to sleep and proceeded to sleep for the next 11 hours straight! I was hoping it wasn’t a fluke and he continued to do so the rest of the week. Swaddle, be gone!
We are getting into a good routine in the mornings with daycare while Brian is traveling but once 4:30p hits and I have all three kids it’s basically chaos. Carter usually needs a quick cat nap to get him until about 6:30p but that cat nap usually happens with someone holding him so…. when Brian travels, that person is me! When Brian is home, he takes him upstairs and he’s lights out within 5 minutes! So cat nap while the two kids play, and then as soon as he wakes up I hustle downstairs to make some dinner for the big two. Thankfully, CK is pretty happy sitting in his bouncing chair while I’m getting stuff ready. While the big two eat, I hold CK and play with him and then as soon as they are done we go upstairs and I give baths and then nurse CK in his nursery for bed. Once he starts stretching his wake times and consolidating his naps and is at 3 naps or even 2, it will be so much better in the late afternoon! Everything comes with time, right? 🙂
* Blowing saliva bubbles
* Cat Napping
* Being tired
I don’t have his weight/height/head stats yet because his 4 month check in on Monday morning. Love seeing how much he grows but really hate when he gets his shots. 😦 Even though for his 2 months shots he did fine and literally only cried for about 20 seconds but had very sore legs later that night.
This little guy is such a sweet baby and so easy. He nurses great, sleeps great, and is so smiley. He has a very laid back personality and just goes with the flow. (He sort of has to). He is still a pro cat napper (30 minutes) and is usually sleeping in his crib between 6:30 and 6:45p and will sleep for 11 hrs straight. He’d probably go back to sleep if we let him but during the week he needs to be up for daycare. He has recently started putting himself to sleep at daycare for naps and self soothes by sucking his little thumb. He likes his bath water very warm and the room temp better be the same too or else! He loves watching his brother and sister play and smiles when they come talk to him. He isn’t rolling over yet and doesn’t really have any interest in doing so. Tummy time is still just an OK thing for him. It’s not his favorite but he’ll spend some time on the floor when we put him down to practice. He likes laying under his activity mat and grabs onto his toys with good precision. He talks to them from time to time as well. He has his first cold and cough and has been such a trooper through it! 💪🏻
He’s such a sweet little guy! Can’t wait to see how he changes over the next month.